Intentionality when spending time with children makes an enormous difference
Amid daily schedules filled with school, work and commitments, carving out intentional, meaningful moments with children has become more valuable than ever. While the conversation often revolves around the quantity of time parents spend with their children, it is the quality of those moments that makes a lasting impact.
Children remember how they felt when they were with you – not just how long you were there. A single moment of true connection can shape a child’s emotional confidence and reinforce their sense of belonging.
Quality time is about focused, genuine interaction. It’s found in the bedtime story told with enthusiasm, the walk through a local park filled with questions and laughter or the shared task of preparing a meal together. These small, deliberate acts create memories that build trust, encourage communication and nurture a child’s emotional wellbeing.
Seek purpose
Spending quality time with children fosters a number of positive outcomes. Emotional security comes about when trust and confidence grow as children feel seen and heard. Open communication and meaningful interactions encourage children to express their thoughts and feelings freely.
Self-worth can be built through undivided attention that, even for short periods, helps children feel valued. Life learning through everyday activities such as cooking or gardening provides valuable lessons in patience, kindness and responsibility.
With a bit of creativity, it’s possible for families to integrate purposeful time together into daily routines.
- Transform simple routines into opportunities: Sharing stories at mealtimes, chatting during the school run or telling bedtime stories can strengthen connections.
- Explore nature together: Hiking, camping or even walking barefoot in the garden – time outdoors fosters joy and discovery.
- Create together: Painting, baking or building a vegetable patch together sparks creativity and strengthens family bonds.
- Focus on one-on-one time: Small acts like fetching ice cream or taking a short walk with just one child can leave a lasting impression.
- Be present: Turn off distractions, listen attentively and engage with your child in ways that show they have your full attention.
Children thrive in environments where love is shown through shared experiences, not just spoken words. By being fully present in these everyday moments, parents lay the foundation for emotional resilience and a secure sense of identity.
While extended time together is ideal, what truly matters is how time is spent. Even a few meaningful minutes can have a profound effect on a child’s development. The goal isn’t perfection – it’s presence. Nurturing relationships at home complements the structured, play-based learning environment offered at school.
Text | Ursula Assis
Photography | Jacob Lund
Ursula Assis is Country Director of Dibber International Preschools. For more information, go to dibber.co.za.
